The beginning: Some people are strangers to themselves
May be not a new thing but certain things in life feels new and rejuvenating like rain, flowers, morning sun . They are always there, we have seen them million times but still we feel good everytime. So certain things in life always keeps us lively. New made goals, new perception about life, a new job, a day before wedding always keep us excited and we are on the toe to start the new thing.
As days pass by, we see ourselves in confusion as our new made goals or job or a wedding don't contribute what exactly we wanted to do. So this is when the reality strikes, the reality can be good about learning our own self, and yet we don't see our weekness inside, instead we blame it in our colleagues, company, spouse, children etc.,
Ego is the supremacy which breaks / builds a person, the fear of failure and the fear of the inner-self make ourselves to out grow our fear temprorarily, but this will not last long as we have not made the choice of solving the problem but to postpone it, we changed only our perception about the problem but never thought the solution of it.
So what is this all about? What we are trying to infer here? This all came from our very nature of the human and it's survival. Human is the lethal animal when mixed with ego, will do the most bigger and dangerous things ever possible.So what we are trying to focus is the very thin piece of the dangerous part of it. It kills our own self . So now being humble atleast to ourself is the key for our own success.
Atleast once in a lifetime we have to make good friendship with our own heart, listen to what he says, what he really wants?. But this is not a easiest thing. All good things are always hard to get, the love of our life, the job we love the most, the things that we really wanted , all needs a price to be paid. But here the patience, preserverance and humbleness always helps and they are our friends, tools, map to road to success.
This is samething with knowing one self, we can do mistakes and learn or think before doing a mistake, that will help in the long way. We have access to the information that was not possible to any centuries earlier (As rightly said by Tonny Robbins). So this all comes to one thing, ME! WHO AM I! .
"Some people are strangers to themselves" this word striked me really hard, what will be the solution for it. I am still thinking about what will be the solution for it , but what I can think of it as the inability to accept ourselves as we are. This is hard, this is abandoning ourselves from us. This is the most pathetic situation we can be in our life. So how do we come out?
It's depend on each person and the human are made that way. Each one is unique, but providing a template is possibile and design pattern to solve the problem.
1. Accepting ourselves and others:
Accepting ourselves will make us understanding that mistakes happen, and learning from the mistake is what we should do, it might be a mistake of others. Your suggestion might also help them to correct it, so accept yourselves and others for their mistakes.
2. Be Flexible:
Sometimes we are not what we are, we don't get what we want, but still we would have learned something from our steps of failure. This will help us in the future decisions and goal settings. Understanding is the key.
3. Focus and Think:
Don't be hard on yourself, every big problem will have a small knot which is tied to it, once that is solved then everything falls apart. You might have to search the underlying and fundamental problem insteading just looking the smoke, and sweat for it. So this should be easy if you keep your mind open, get advice from your honest friend, or speak to your mentor.
4. Move Forward, even if it hurts:
Even you miss the deadlines, even you miss the timelines you set for yourself, don't bother see how even a small step makes some good improvement in your life. Keep Moving and things will go on it own.
5. Relax yourself:
In 80-20 Rule, you get to relax at the 20, there is where you will get great ideas to do good things faster and more effective way.
Having said, practicing makes it hard. As harder it gets as interesting it will become, never lose hope, might be I will have thoughts about the hope , but for now good luck in the true learning and true freedom.
Happy Independence Day!
Comments
Realization of the 'who am i" is a big step and a continuous process. Might give the exact revelations even in the last breath or just in a very causal moment. So casual we might just have missed it.
rather a step at a time, like your suggestion with a certain specific points (maybe even custom) would increase the probability of the realization or not missing out 'that' casual moment.
other stuff - are of no matter. a ride, a travel, marriages, kids, friends, jobs, a meal, a cozy rug or anything in mass or volume or perception might bring the scenario for that casual moment.
a nice message on a good day... we have 'the' freedom and not the knowledge of realization to accept it!
Hope this Independence Day, really works on our Liberating ourselves from the shackles we are tied ourselves.
Keep up :)
All this Gyan will be usefull to me, i can follow it when you tease me...lol :)
Thanikachalan
You either change/learn by doing , or you learn from others. You can't change anybody but you can provide honest comments to make them know what they should do.(Unless they hear you well. :) )
But if we want to change ourselves, just read the above points with you in mind. It might help in your sense. Let me know if it helps in you in some way. :)